Grey Update

little n says….

So I’ve got about a quarter of the first 50 shades book left to read. She still hasn’t signed his contract, she’s still scared he’ll hurt her (even though that’s kinda the idea all be it in a mostly enjoyable way) and she won’t stop harassing the poor man and over thinking things and she still can’t get her head around the submissive thing. Another thing I was disappointed in Mr Grey for not giving her a hard spanking in the boathouse when she clearly deserved it! What I can’t work out is why Mr Grey has such an issue with being touched, although he’ll let her touch his hair! Does he think it’s a paradox, being a dom and being given affection? I think I’d complain if I couldn’t show my daddy how much I loved him!

I’m starting to notice that each one of my vanilla facebook friends have been posting about 50 shades recently. That drives me a bit mental. Its kinda like suddenly everyone is sticking their nose into your private life and having a good gossip and giggle about it and saying things like ‘oh I’m a submissive’ without actually realising what it is and what it entails. These people, bless them, are so unaware that some of us already know all about it without having to read this book, and that reading it does not make you an expert on D/s (not that they’d even know that term). I suppose I shouldn’t get too annoyed coz in reality these women are just desperate for attention by men and Mr Grey represents a very different kind of man to what these women are used to in their own lives. I’m sure all this Mr Grey mania will soon pass, and the spotlight will turn onto something else. It’s a shame really, because I should be able to celebrate a book like this. In a way it is good that D/s is not as underground as it was 5 minutes ago, but it has been spoilt by the trivialising nature of our society. Although if I was to say be invited out for a meal by one of these vanilla people who have read the book (who state how much they want Mr Grey), and the conversation turned onto the book or related topic and I was to blurt out something about how I indulge in that sort of behaviour, I’m sure jaws would still drop, and I’d get a few disgusted looks and not be invited back!

Also the book clearly hasn’t been written for the D/s community or by a member of it. If it had been and it had been ‘discovered’ by the vanilla community I would perhaps be less hostile. Unfortunately though it reeks of ‘I’ve done some internet research and copied some stuff off online blogs and written it into a story but I find a lot of the things that the D/s community do abhorrent!’.

I can’t help but theorise that E L James is like ana in the story. She has done a bit of research (the research represents Mr Grey if you hadn’t figured) and as she’s done this research she has been shocked and appalled by it, but intrigued and has just like ana asked herself lots of questions. Like I said before, its probably an amazing book if you don’t know a thing about it all, you probably live it along with ana gasping, flushing, groaning and thinking ‘oh my’ at all the right moments. But it gets a bit tedious when you’ve seen/read/experienced it all before. I thought being tied up was vanilla these days, it’s been done already, its old news! (Still fun, but not shocking surely?) Mr Grey’s actions are not shocking to me if not a bit vanilla in parts! Don't get me wrong, I do like the mind games the plays, and he sounds like a handsome enough man, but Just look at his hard limit list! Also I can’t help thinking that perhaps E L James was a fan of 9 ½ weeks which is a similar novel/film but less patronising and more enjoyable somehow.

In conclusion readers with D/s knowledge/experience will find themselves no doubt frustrated with this book of discovery. In reality if you’re looking for content, you’re better off searching on literotica!