Reading those words and the idea of hearing that said to me is really powerfull. Im sure I am not alone in feeling this way, as many women also feel as if their sexuality is still taboo despite the fact that we live in a 'pornificated' society. Unfortanatley though many of us still feel that if we tell our partners kinky or vanilla what we really think about in bed, that we will be rejected or that our fantisies will never be realised even if they do not react in disgust at the idea of you calling them Daddy and needing a spanking. And I have found that to be somwhat true, because the problem is girls, men just dont think the same way as we do...well most of them don't.
If you go onto a male blog you are likely to find many sexual images. You can find them on a womans blog too of course, but male blogs tend to have more sexualy explicit imagry and more images in general than on a female blog. Females like to write, to think and express themselves. We use our minds alot, and we are not different when it comes to sex. Go onto a male blog and you often wont find a great deal of content, just page after page of sexualy explicit imagry, which is fine, but its not sexy. Much like a strip dancer is much less sexy than a burlesque dancer. (Men may scratch their heads at this one and think 'but a stripper takes all her clothes off how can she be less sexy?' Indeed she does, but it is they way she does it.) What men and women find sexy can be very different.
I am begining to realise as I get older (ok so I know im still only 23 lol) that men and women really do think about sex differently. For men, it remains a very visual thing. For me, it is about what is hidden underneith. What is going on in the mind. And there is nothing less sexy than when you look at your partner and you realise there is nothing going on in there!
Those words therefore are powerfull, becasue they are so rare. For a man to understand what a woman wants, without her having to go through the humiliation (and eventual disapointment as her man fails to live up to her desires and expectations) of having to spell out every detail. Somtimes I wish that a man could offer me this. But I am not sure there are many men out there living on this planet who are capable of such a statement. They'd have to be just as kinky, if not kinky than me to truely understand the implication and meaning of those words.
I have at least once perhaps more, met men who have this quality to them. The ability to see through me, to know my secrets and desires by just looking at me. Meeting these men can somtimes be disturbing and fightening and may very well leave you feeling a little breathless! Us women walk around not realising the sorts of signals we give off, what traces we leave behind when we say somthing a certain way, look a certain way or react to somthing because we are used to being ignored. Then when somone does pick up on it, and responds to you in such a way that they are telling you that they know you mind suddenly you feel very vulnrable. Its awakeing, exciting and realy fucking scary! It all becomes a rush, every look, glance, stare, brush of the hand sends a signal straight down to your groin and makes your face burn. He knows to much, you think. You walk away feeling humiliated, but you return later for the thrill. These men are one of a kind, and they make a lasting impression.
If more men where able to look beyond the physical and delve into the minds of their partners then we might all enjoy better sex lives. Sadly though, most men do not realise this. For me, sex is all in the mind and does not just happen in the bedroom. A convosation can have me feeling much more aroused than a touch or an image. If men really want to please women, then they should learn this, and be prepared to delve in a womans mind, and talk of nothing else but sexual fantisies all day long! Then perhaps when you are at home in bed at night, when her mind is alive with all that has been said, she will be ready for you and she will not utter the words 'not tonight darling, I have a headache'.
The sad fact is that much of womens erotica, and the little sayings and quotes such as the one above are written by women, for the enjoyment of themselves and other women. You will likely not ever hear a man say those words, becasue they where thought up by a woman and written by a woman.
